The following poem may be the biggest mistake I’ve ever made on this blog. It could draw some significant ire. However, if those who read it, read it carefully and understand its intent, it may help someone reconsider how they are doing things. The poem came as a result of a conversation I had with a decent young man who at present has no prospects for marriage. What he said could be interpreted as so much sour grapes, but I don’t think so. He wants to be a godly husband and is waiting for a godly spouse, but inside and outside the church, young women seem suspicious and disinterested in commitment to young men. (Switching gender in this statement is sometimes true as well.) One statement he made struck me as instructive: “The American Woman (I’ve decided to call her) expects that a man meet all of her emotional needs, but she sees it as optional to meet his physical needs.” I thought several things after he said this: 1) The full pendulum swing from the man as ruler of his house to the fully liberated woman has occurred. 2) Neither extreme is biblical and both are damaging to all parties involved. 3) This statement illustrates the age old difference and misunderstanding of differences in needs of the two genders.
This society belittles males as nothing more than animals, blathering, hormonal driven fools. What we expect and inspire is what we get. We need to change our expectations and encouragement of boys and men.
American woman why do you flounce?
Look on with disapproving eyes
Every male reject and renounce
Belittle in jest and despise
You practice no modesty before guys
In speech and action or in dress
Putting out honey will draw flies
Complicit are you in this mess
(Now it’s true that men should not lust for girls
Treat them as objects, as mere tools
But made in God’s image, real pearls
Honoring her, not acting like fools)
So build up young men; don’t tear them all down
Declare to them their great value
Help them step up to be renown
Sober of mind and always true
Thus the benefit for all and for you
Respect your man and serve him, too
Modest in dress says you are true
He will arise, protect, love you
CreatorWorship 
The ideas you share here are to me a reflection of the reality that we are to serve one another in love. But in our culture this blog post is a powder keg. I believe that is because our culture is wrapped up in power dynamics whereas the way of Jesus is about turning our eyes away from self and toward the Savior. This post in some circles would bring accusations of misogyny and “victim-blaming” but received with humility this post is a helpful reminder to regard others as more important than yourselves (Php. 2:3). This post doesn’t say everything that can or should be said about this subject of male/female relationships in the age of #metoo, but it does say one important thing very well.
I would like to discuss an overview of what subjects need to be discussed. My paranthetical verse in the poems is intended to say that, though we are discussing one facet of this interaction, it definitely cuts both ways. Thank you for your insightful comment on the bigger picture of what the problem is.